What are you supposed to do when you know your kid is hurting, that they're depressed and you live too damn far away to be there for them?
Remember about a week ago when I wrote (this post) about my Son and his "new" (they'd been dating for a few months by the time he told me) girlfriend? Well apparently things aren't going so good for them and it's killing me because my kid is taking it hard and I live too damn far away, I can't be there for him.
Rusty works hard, I know I've mentioned this before. When you work anywhere from 80-130 hours a week it's hard to find someone you can trust. I talked to him the other day and he was telling me that the last few times he'd talked to her he could tell something was up. That she was acting "different."
See, all the guys that he works with have had girlfriends/wives cheat on them. The hours they work, the amount of time that they're away from home is usually to blame for this. He's seen this. So when he realized that she acting different it had his mind going a thousand miles an hour. It was killing him. And him being a couple of hundred miles away at work wasn't helping him.
I told him not to do that to himself, to just not think about it and when he got home if she was still acting the same then they could see if they could work it out.
Well apparently when he got home from offshore it didn't go so good. I haven't talked to him since he got home so I don't know what's going on with them but from what he's posted on FB, I'm guessing they broke up. And he's not taking it so good. I tried to call him yesterday but he didn't answer, I texted him last night. No reply. He'll get a nice ear chewing for this when I do hear from him lol.
I can see now that my kid is that guy, the "nice guy." The one all the girls want to be "just friends" with. Which means he's going to go through a lot of heart ache.
He told me when we were talking about the
He's young y'all. He's only 21. But all of his friends are in serious relationships or are married. He doesn't want to do the whole partying thing. Since he was 18 he's had one goal. He wants to own a home by the time he's 25. That should tell you what kind of a guy he is.
I mean, it's a good goal for him to have. But I doubt he's going to meet many girls his age who have goals like his. Most kids his age are only interested in partyin'! Sometimes I wish he could just "let go" a little bit and enjoy life a little more.
So what has me so worried? I woke up this morning and this is his status on FB..." Wish you were still here dad. I could really use some of your advice." Uugh...it was like a knife to my heart. His Dad committed suicide almost two years ago. So to see that on FB made me panic. Especially since Rusty wasn't answering my phone calls last night.
There's this couple that he hangs around with a lot when he's home, they take really good care of him, they look out for him. If they go out and he gets drunk, they drive him home. If he needs something taken care of while he's offshore, they do it for him.
I sent Corinne (the wife) a message on FB this morning and asked her if they'd heard from him. They hadn't but her husband called Rusty and asked him if he wanted to go to dinner with him tonight. So she sent me a message to let me know he's ok. Whew. Thank God for her!
I know that Rusty would never hurt himself. Because of his Dad's suicide he has very strong opinions about the subject. But because he wasn't answering my calls or replying to my text I was damn near panicking.
I'm so pissed right now. I'm pissed that his Dad was so selfish that he picked up that damn gun and killed himself. Especially seeing that my Son needs his Dad right now. God forbid he thought more about someone else (you know, HIS KIDS) than he did himself.
I'm pissed that this girl hurt my son. Why is it that (most) girls would prefer a guy who's going to treat them like shit over the "nice guy?" It's probably a good thing that I don't live there, she'd have a Momma bear on her ass. Lol. I wish I was joking.If there's one thing you need to know about Cajun mothers, it's that you NEVER eva mess with their kids. It's how we were raised so when we have kids of our own...we're the same way.
I'm pissed that I live too damn far away to be there for him. Am I too wrapped up in his life? There is no such thing. He's my kid. Am I not supposed to care about what's going on in his life? That he's hurting? It doesn't matter how old your kids are (in my opinion) they'll always be your "babies."
I'm pissed I can't give him a hug right now. That's all I want to do, is just hug him and make all his "hurt" go away.